Are you Driving, Riding, or Watching?

As I ponder over the changes that have happened in my life over the last 90 days, I have to wonder if I am putting way too much pressure on myself.  I am generally a well balanced person.  However lately, I seem to be off of my game. I don't feel like I am giving a 100 percent.  I am getting things done, but some days it seems as if I am in a fog; just doing enough to get by.  Ever felt like that before?  I also know that what ever I am dealing with probably fails in comparison to someone else.  So, what is a girl to do?

I am entertaining going back to school for another degree.  I have had a longing for law school for as long as I can remember, but I keep talking myself out of going.  So I am trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up. 

I am accepting the things that I cannot change about other people. I realize that I am in control of how I respond to how people treat me. I realize that I am responsible for teaching people how to treat me.  If I fail in that, then I have no one to blame but myself.  I know that my feelings are not right or wrong, because they are mine.

Has anyone else ever felt like your life was passing you by? If so, what did you do to get back on the ride? 

Keeping us empowered and uplifted,
Sisterfriend

Where do you go from here?

Have you ever had one of those weeks where you just could not seem to tunnel through? Well this was it for me. I found myself trying to be more than I had the energy to be. Last week we talked about remembering who we are.  Well, I truly forgot who I was and whose I was somewhere around Thursday. I tried to figure out what happened, but even as I write this entry, I cannot put my hand on it. I do know that I have to do a  much better job of teaching people how to treat me. I was talking with another sisterfriend and I recalled the scene from "What's Love Got to Do With It?", when Tina walked into the hotel the night of the Grammys.(after the fight in the limo with Ike) I felt beaten, battered and broken. I did not have the energy to pray because I wasn't exactly sure what I was praying about.  Was it my husband? Was it my uncertainity because I have been out of work since June and I was beginning to feel the pressure? Was it my family, my friends?

Last night I cried until I fell asleep. I went to church hoping for some clarity to come. I found myself crying again. By the way, I am not the crying type.  So as I sit here tonight, I am still pondering what went wrong last week? How did I get a way from me?  Where did I go and where do I go from here?

So my question, when you found yourself to be out of sorts what did you do to get back to you?  If you have a favorite scripture that helped please share and explain how it helped you.  If a favorite book or favorite quote or meditation, explain how it helped you.

Remembering who you are

 Have you ever been involved in something or with someone and in the process forgot who you were? Forgot what you believed in? Forgot what some of your core beliefs were? Forgot some of your family values?  All in the name of love or the dollar bill. Sometimes as women, we tend to over compromise when it comes to relationships and our careers. In relationships, we don't want to appear to be 'too this or too that'. At work, we tend to and sometimes by necessity to 'dummy down' so as not to appear too aggressive or bossy.  We go along to get along because we don't want to be alone. But in our alone time, we began to question whether it is all worth it.

So, if you have been in this situation, how did you find you again? What did it take for you to realize that you were ok? Did you ever find yourself there again? If so, did it take as long for you to find you again?

What type are you?

So, by now you have heard about Ti and Tiny getting arrested for drug charges. Some say that Tiny should say every thing was hers so Ti could continue his career and stay out of jail. Some say that if she loves her man, she would not have allowed him to get in this situation. Some say a true 'ride or die' female, always falls on her sword for her man. Here is my take, Ti is a grown man and makes decisions for himself. Tiny is a grown woman and makes decisions for herself. Neither one of them had to be driving around with weed smoke in the car and other drugs on their person. In my opinion, a 'true ride or die' female, thinks things through. She weighs out her options and acts accordingly. When you are a mother with your children, the welfare of them should be your number one priority. So my question is, which type are you? Do you fall on your sword all the time or do you weigh your options because others are depending on you to protect them? In this case, who are protecting the children?

Getting started

There comes a time in your life when you have to decide what it is that you want to do for you. Not what any body else wants you to do for you, but what you really want to do. This is not an easy task, but you at least have to start some where. We spend a lot of time on other people and not enough on ourselves. So give yourself permission to think about you.