Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Remembering who you are

 Have you ever been involved in something or with someone and in the process forgot who you were? Forgot what you believed in? Forgot what some of your core beliefs were? Forgot some of your family values?  All in the name of love or the dollar bill. Sometimes as women, we tend to over compromise when it comes to relationships and our careers. In relationships, we don't want to appear to be 'too this or too that'. At work, we tend to and sometimes by necessity to 'dummy down' so as not to appear too aggressive or bossy.  We go along to get along because we don't want to be alone. But in our alone time, we began to question whether it is all worth it.

So, if you have been in this situation, how did you find you again? What did it take for you to realize that you were ok? Did you ever find yourself there again? If so, did it take as long for you to find you again?


Anonymous said...

There are many questions here but no answers and I presume that it is by design. Still, to be able to ask the questions there must be some insights. Please share.

Sister Friend said...

Good observation Scottpoint, let me see if I can address that.
There have been times in my life, when I did not put me first. I allowed myself to be put on hold because of the relationship I was in. I put off going back to school. I put off nurturing my business. I put off joining that weight lost class. I did all of these things because I had put me on hold. I felt as if I needed to be available for my family, my job, my church and my friends. Then a shift happened in my life, that forced me to look at me and decide if I was living or if I was just existing. I decided I wanted to do more than just exist, I wanted to live. I took small steps to get back to me so I could experience some success. It took some getting used to from every one, especially me, but I know I am a better me. And that is good for everyone.